Loved ones disappear, but their love stays with us forever


We came across this letter which one woman wrote to her newborn granddaughter. We’ve never read anything so touching, or so wise, as this. We think you’ll agree. Take a look.

’…To my dearest grandaughter,

I could already have written this letter to your mother a quarter a century ago…But I was only 25 then, and all I thought about were mundane, everyday questions — how to feed my family, how to get your mother to kindergarten on time without missing a lecture. Your grandfather was working night shifts at the time, so he couldn’t help me when your mother cried all night long from her many illnesses.

Now I’m 50, and I’ve gained some experience which I would like to share with you. I’m not saying that I know everything there is to know about this world (who does?), but in the end, I am your grandmother and I want nothing more than for you to be happy. My advice won’t do you any harm! So here it is:

Never be afraid to fall down

Ride your bike, play on the swings; ride on your rollerblades and skateboard — and never be afraid to fall down. Maybe it will hurt, but then this will teach you a wider lesson about life: you learn that you must on occassion pick yourself up even when you want to cry.

Never be afraid to express your point of view

You’re not obliged to stay silent, if you don’t like something or don’t agree with it. Don’t hide your opinion for the sake of friendship, nor for the sake of a loving relationship. If people don’t listen to you or respect you, or demand your loyalty without expressing yourself, then that ’friendship’ or relationship is not worth it.
Never be ashamed to apologise

Only the strongest little girls know how to apologise and understand their own mistakes, and I really want you to grow up with this in mind. Of course, it’s always difficult to say “I’m sorry, I was wrong. What can I do to make things better?” But you have to learn how to do it. And when you do, your life will be simpler and happier.

Never be afraid of criticism

Getting a D grade in class is not the worst thing that can happen to you. Think of it in terms of an indication of where you can improve yourself. Eventually, you’ll come to understand what you need to work on. Getting a low grade doesn’t mean you’re stupid. It’s a just a way to motivate you to do better — because you can.

Don’t be afraid of being unpopular

While all the popular kids are going to parties, hanging around at the mall or liking each other’s photographs on social networks, you could be doing something really interesting. The truth is, they’ll still be doing all these mundane things when they’re young adults, and by that time you’ll have conquered the world, because you started doing your own thing when you were younger.

Don’t be afraid of being strange

I don’t need to say much here. People used to say that you’re own grandmother was strange, and she’s turned out wonderfully!

Never be afraid to fall in love

Sooner or later, you will definitely experience love. There’s only one way to deal with it, and that’s to rejoice that you’ve finally found the most important thing in the world.

Don’t worry about your first kiss

Just believe your grandmother: Your first kiss will be wonderful! Don’t worry about it at all. Every woman knows how to kiss with passion, it’s just in her blood.

Don’t be afraid of getting married…and don’t be afraid not to

It’s nobody’s business whether you’ve got a wedding or engagement ring on your finger or not. But if you decide to go down the family route, try your best to be certain that you’ve found the right person for you. If you succeed, everything will turn out fine in the long run.

Don’t be afraid of childbirth
If you decide to have kids, well…I’m not going to lie to you, it will be painful. But it’s the most wonderful thing that can ever happen to anyone on Earth.

Don’t be afraid of being on your own

Sometimes, being alone can help you a lot. It can even be enjoyable. But just don’t spend your time in solitude for too long — it shouldn’t become a lifestyle choice.

Don’t be afraid to cry

Strong people cry as well. I’m strong, I do what I want; therefore, if I want to cry (or laugh), I will.

Never be afraid to try something new

Ignore how old you are or what other people tell you. Get the most enjoyment you can out of life; no matter how crazy your dreams are, pursue them with all your heart.

Don’t worry about getting old

As you get older, you’ll begin to appreciate life more and love your close ones more than ever. When you do, maybe you’ll be inspired to write a letter to your own granddaughter…

Don’t be afraid to lose those close to you

I thought about whether I should tell you this or not for a long time. But you would find out yourself one day even without me, so it’s best that you understand this sooner rather than later: You will know what it means to lose someone close to you. It’s inevitable. But always remember this: people disappear, but their love stays with us forever.


Your grandmother

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