Steven Nelms and his wife Glory have been together for three years. When their son Esra was born, the young couple decided that Glory would give up work and dedicate herself full-time to childcare.
Recently, Steven wrote a touching blog post about his wife which went viral across the internet. And it’s not hard to see why — take a look. It really makes you think.
’I’ve had this thought in my head for a while now. I’ve been thinking that I can’t afford for my wife to be a Stay-At-Home Mom,’ declared Steven.
’My wife stays home and takes care of our son every single day. She changes his diapers, feeds him, plays with him, puts him down for his nap, and comforts him when he’s upset. And that’s just the bare minimum.’
’Of course, it is a natural result of being a parent to love and care for your own child, [but] there is also a very quantifiable dollar amount that can be attributed to the services rendered.’
Steven calculated how much his wife’s work was worth for a year:
- The national average weekly salary for a full-time nanny is $705, or $36,660 a year.
- The costs of cleaning the house: from $50 to $100 a week, or $5,200 a year.
- Personal shoppers on average run around $65 an hour for four hours a week, or $13,520 a year.
- A personal chef can cost $240 a week, or $12,480 a year.
- A financial assistant who manages the bills and the budget on average earns $15 an hour, for five hours a week, or $3,900 a year.
- Professional interactions (such as business dinners) involving a personal assistant will cost $75 an hour, for four hours, three times a year, in total $900 a year.
- Laundry services on average equal $25 a week, or $1,300 a year.
’In total, that’s an annual salary of $73,960. Looking objectively at an almost insultingly conservative average of the services rendered, I cannot afford my wife.’
’And let’s remember, there’s no sick leave with childcare, there’s no paid time off. All of the incentives that someone who makes over 70K a year would normally enjoy are not part of this deal.’
’The truth is, I’m ashamed of any time I’ve ever made her feel guilty when she’s purchased something for herself. I’m ashamed that she has ever felt like she doesn’t have just as much right to our income as I do.’
’She loves me, loves our son, and loves our family, so obviously she isn’t doing any of those things for a paycheck or even for recognition. But it certainly doesn’t hurt to know that as a Stay-At-Home Mom her appraised salary is nearly double my actual income.’
’So in a very weird way, this is my way of saying how much I value my wife as the mother of my child and the one who always has my back no matter what. You are more precious than rubies. And I can’t afford you.’
Source: We are Glory